Who do you want to be with you during this experience? This might include your spouse, parent, friend, or a professional doula (a woman trained to provide emotional, physical, and educational support to women and their families during childbirth and postpartum).
What procedures are you comfortable with? These might include an IV, ability to eat and drink in early labor, continuous fetal monitoring, and the ability to change position and walk around. Ask which may be medically necessary for your birth.
Do you plan to take pictures or videotape the experience?
How do you plan to manage discomforts? This might include relaxation, breathing techniques, and tub or shower access.
What type of pharmacologic pain management is acceptable to you? This might include pain medications or epidural anesthesia.
What are your preferences about an episiotomy?
What birthing position do you want to use? This might include sitting, squatting, or side-lying.
Do you want your support person to be able to cut the umbilical cord?
For a Cesarean birth, do you want your support person with you?
Do you want to have your newborn placed against your skin and the opportunity to breastfeed immediately after birth?
Do you want your newborn to stay with you for the initial procedures such as eye medication, vitamin K injection, and first bath?
Are there any special cultural or religious traditions you wish to keep?